Gender roles are quite the controversial topic in 2020, and yet there are still certain instinctual behaviors that we never fully put down. Anyone with a family would, for obvious reasons, want to ensure their family is safe, and it’s true for many families that the primary responsibility of protector falls to Dad, Husband, the man of the house.
Does that make you nervous, guys? It’s a lot of responsibility to take on, and sometimes, you might find it overwhelming or downright frightening, but it doesn’t have to be. Here’s a shortlist of things you can do to be a protector for your family.
1. Set Good Social Examples
One of the first ways any man can protect his family is by setting a good example. Being confident, assertive and also tactful and respectful in social situations will help your kids feel safe and learn good habits. Ultimately, your children need to grow up feeling that they have the tools to be confident and self-secure in a variety of situations. By carrying yourself properly, you communicate these good habits to them and help them feel protected at the same time.
2. Provide a Safe Home
It’s one thing to make sure your family feels safe in a social setting, but much of your family’s time is sure to be spent at home. So it’s important that you make your home somewhere your family feels secure by having a clean, well-maintained space with working locks and additional security features. For example, you could install a gate to your driveway to make sure you’re able to control who can visit at any given time.
3. Install a Security System
Adding to ways of creating a safe space for your family, you can install a modern security system that will alert your family and the authorities of any intrusion into your space. Some of the new smart home security packages provide incredible functionality. You can monitor your camera system from your phone, train the system to listen for unusual sounds and even lock your doors remotely.
4. Walk Away From Dangerous Situations
You’re a guy, so maybe you’re familiar with the way that your ego can get ahead of you at times. However, when you have a family with you, it’s critical that you know how to de-escalate a situation. Instead of leaning into a confrontation that could become dangerous for your family, you’ve got to have the composure to recognize when things are getting sketchy and walk away. It might mean swallowing your pride, but it’s for the best in the long run.
5. Have a Plan
Whether it’s how your family should leave the house in the event of a fire, which exit to use and where to meet afterward, or what to do in the case that someone breaks into your home, talk with your family about how to respond in the event of a crisis. By agreeing ahead of time on what to do if things get out of control, you’ll be equipping them with a less frantic mind should anything actually happen. That means they’ll be safer even if you’re not able to be there and help them.
6. Be Calmly Alert at All Times
It might sound simple, but being a head-of-household isn’t a job you get to just put down. You can’t be a stress-case all the time, but you have the responsibility of ensuring your family is safe. That means knowing when you need to spring into action. At the first sign of trouble, you need to have the conviction and the aptitude to take on a leadership role and assert what the family needs to do to be safe. Whether it’s in the middle of the night or out for a walk after work one day, if something happens, the family looks to you.
7. Keep Yourself Healthy
You can’t protect your family if you’re not around. They rely on you and look to you for guidance, which means you have to take the necessary steps to ensure you can be there. If you didn’t have much concern for your own physical well-being in the past, having a family and kids will change all of that.
What exactly does this mean? Make sure you attend your yearly check-ups. Get enough exercise, eat right and avoid bad habits like drinking and smoking that could lead to significant health issues. Consider giving your extreme sports hobbies a rest so that you won’t be hurt if something comes up and you need to be there for the family. It might not seem cool, but it’s a responsibility that comes with your role.
Surprised we didn’t get into any mention of high-tech body armor or weapons? That stuff can be fun to talk about, but it ultimately affects very, very few of the situations actual families face. In reality, making your family safe is about having the right attitude and giving the people you love some peace-of-mind. It’s not always glamorous, but it’s a job you should be proud to take on.